Ever find yourself caught in the middle? Maybe you’ve spent years wondering why you don’t quite fit into the “straight” box, but the “gay” label doesn’t feel like a perfect match either.
If you’ve ever thought, “I think I go both ways,” you aren’t alone, and you aren’t “just confused.” You’re likely experiencing the fluid spectrum of attraction.
Here are ten signs that your heart (and your attraction) might be wider than you realized.
1. The “Double-Take” is your default. You’re at a coffee shop and find yourself checking out the guy behind the counter… and then the girl sitting in the window. Gender isn’t the gatekeeper for what you find attractive.
2. You’ve “joked” about it for years. Humor is a classic way we test the waters of our own identity. If you’ve spent years making “casual” comments about being bi, it might be your subconscious trying to tell you something.
3. Celebrity crushes are a mixed bag. Your “Top 5” list looks like a diverse casting call. You don’t have a “type” so much as you have a “vibe” that transcends gender.
4. The “Am I faking it?” loop. Most people who go both ways deal with “imposter syndrome”. You wonder if you’re just looking for attention or if it’s a phase. (Spoiler: straight people don’t usually spend this much time worrying if they’re actually bi).
5. You feel “too straight” for queer spaces and “too queer” for straight ones. This “in-between” feeling is the hallmark of the fluid experience. It’s why this site exists.
6. Fictional romances hit you differently. You find yourself rooting for the chemistry between characters regardless of the “traditional” pairing the show is pushing.
7. Gender feels secondary to energy. When you meet someone new, you’re drawn to their humor, their intellect, or their kindness before you even process their gender.
8. You’ve experienced “The Cycle.” Sometimes you’re more into men; sometimes you’re more into women or non-binary folks. This “bi-cycle” is a very real, common part of being fluid.
9. The label “Bisexual” feels heavy, but “Fluid” feels like a relief. You don’t need to have a perfect 50/50 split of attraction to “count.”
10. You’re reading this article. If you’ve searched for “what does it mean if I go both ways,” your curiosity is a sign in itself. You’re looking for validation because your intuition is already pointing you toward the truth.
Whatever you call yourself, whether it’s bisexual, pansexual, fluid, or just “me,” know that there is no “right” way to go both ways. Your identity is a journey, not a destination. You’re in the right place to figure it out.
